Now that school is back in full-swing, you may find yourself struggling to co-parent through the chaos of after-school activities, homework, parent-teacher conferences, sporting events, and everything else that comes along with the school year. The school year can offer challenges to any family, but families with divorced parents may face unique difficulties. We have compiled a list of tips to help your family navigate this time of year smoothly.
Communicate with your child’s teacher.
Many schools use electronic means to communicate with parents. Familiarize yourself with these communication methods and make sure you and your ex-spouse have separate accounts to access the information provided by your child’s teacher. Communicate to your child’s teacher that both parents should be emailed anything that involves your child, and be sure to copy your ex-spouse on any communication between you and your child’s teacher.
Get on the same page.
Let the other parent know when your child is home sick and if there is any work that he or she needs to make up. Use a shared calendar to keep up with extra-curricular activities and important school events. Keep note of when your child needs to bring their gym clothes to school and when their library books are due.
Communicate with your co-parent what your expectations are when it comes to your child’s grades and progress at school. Keep in touch about your child’s goals and grades, and make sure he or she is doing everything needed to succeed at school.
Coordinate with your co-parent when it comes to helping your child complete school projects and assignments. Decide who will take the lead on which assignments in order to reduce the stress on your child and help him or her succeed.
Divorce can take a toll on a child’s emotional health, so it’s important to look out for any signs that your child may be struggling emotionally. Talk to the school guidance counselor and let him or her know about your child’s family situation. Consider extra counseling for your child to help him or her cope with the current situation in healthy ways.
When co-parenting your children, remember that this is ultimately about your child, not about you. Strive to keep your children at the center of your discussions and decisions and try not to let your pride get in the way. When both parents prioritize the best interest of the child, less conflict will arise and more positive interactions will occur.
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